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The Endless Problem of Sin

27 October 2025

I had an interesting conversation recently about sin — that old, heavy word that religion can’t seem to let go of. I asked a simple question: what’s the solution to sin? His answer came quickly: Jesus. “God has provided the way, the truth, and the life through His Son,” he said.

I asked him what sin actually is. He said, “It’s falling short of God’s mark.” I pressed further — when do you know you’ve fallen short? He said, “We always fall short.” Meaning, we’re always sinning. Always unworthy. Always in need of saving.

According to him, salvation is the difference. It rescues you from God’s judgment and the death you deserve. But salvation, he added, isn’t a one-time thing — it’s continuous. Because you keep sinning, the blood of Jesus has to keep cleansing you. So you spend your whole life being forgiven but still guilty. Saved but never clean enough. It’s an endless cycle of guilt and grace that keeps people spiritually dependent forever.

When I was a Christian, I lived in that loop. I’d wake up repenting for my thoughts, my words, even my feelings. Because according to religion, you can sin just by existing — by thinking the wrong thing, by desiring something human, by doubting. You are constantly apologizing for being what nature made you.

He said the Holy Spirit helps us “not to practice sin,” as though sin were a bad habit you could simply quit. But if every human impulse — desire, doubt, curiosity, anger — is considered sin, then to “sin less” would mean to live less. To suppress everything that makes you human.

There’s a quote that says, “Don’t judge people because they sin differently from you.” That one always made me pause. Because in religion, sin is not something you can measure or escape. A murderer and someone who envies their neighbor’s phone are both doomed the same way. There’s no spectrum, no reason, just guilt. And it made me wonder — if we’re all sinners anyway, what’s the point of pretending not to be?

The more I thought about it, the clearer it became. Religion depends on the concept of sin. Without sin, there’s no need for salvation. Without guilt, there’s no dependence on God. It’s a self-sustaining system built on the fear of your own humanity.

I don’t believe in sin anymore. I don’t believe in divine punishment or in the idea that humans are born broken and need saving. I believe in cause and effect — in choices and consequences. We do things that help or harm. We learn, we grow, we make amends. Not because of divine instruction, but because empathy, logic, and experience teach us to.

People don’t need saving from sin. They need understanding, accountability, and freedom from fear. We don’t need blood or blessings to be good. We just need to be honest about who we are — flawed, curious, emotional, thinking beings — figuring life out on a tiny planet, together.

And when I look at the world now, stripped of all the supernatural explanations, it feels more real than ever. The pain is real. The joy is real. The choices are real. And so are the consequences. You start to realize that morality doesn’t come from a book or a church — it comes from living among others, from feeling the ripple of your actions and learning to do better next time.

Maybe that’s the true redemption story — not one written in blood and sacrifice, but one written in awareness and choice. To stop outsourcing your humanity to invisible forces. To take full responsibility for your actions, your mistakes, and your growth. To live truthfully, without fear of eternal punishment or the illusion of divine approval.

Because in the end, being human is not a sin to be washed away. It’s an experience to be lived — fully, consciously, and freely.

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