seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
There’s something I finally admitted to myself this week, and it’s been sitting with me in a very real way. I was talking to an old friend, just catching up, and somehow the conversation drifted to those healing programs I once did in church. You know the ones—full of emotion, full of breakdowns, full of…
Read moreThere was a time I was unwell. I had been in a terrible road accident and spent quite a while in the hospital recovering. When I was finally discharged, my cousin told me something that has stayed with me ever since. She said that while I was in the hospital, she had gone on a…
Read moreRest is not a reward. It’s not something you buy with productivity, or guilt your way into after crossing off enough tasks. Rest is a biological need—just like food, air, and water. You don’t have to earn it. You just deserve it. The world often tells us that unless we’re constantly doing, we’re failing. But…
Read moreLiving single after separation or divorce can feel like both a relief and a reckoning. There’s quiet now—but sometimes it’s too quiet. There’s freedom—but it comes with responsibility. There’s space—but it often feels a little too wide. In the beginning, I filled the silence with distractions. I busied myself with errands, with overthinking, with scrolling….
Read moreThere’s something gentle and grounding about remembering that nothing stays the same—not even our money needs. Just like the seasons, life moves in cycles. Some seasons ask me to stretch and grow, to invest, to build. Others ask me to slow down, rest, recover. Neither is wrong. Both are natural. My financial needs change as…
Read moreYelling doesn’t teach—it triggers. When someone is already overwhelmed, out of control, or struggling, a harsh voice doesn’t guide them; it amplifies fear, anger, or shutdown. Our nervous systems are wired to respond to signals of safety or danger, just like a dog that cowers when shouted at but wags its tail when spoken to…
Read moreMoney, like soil, isn’t good or bad on its own—it just responds to how we treat it. If I use it thoughtfully, with care and purpose, it has the power to nourish my life. It can support my wellbeing, create safety, open up space for joy, rest, and growth. Just like healthy land, when tended…
Read moreThere’s a line I’ve been thinking about: to love your enemies is to love them as enemies. It sounds simple, but it’s probably one of the hardest truths to live with. Most of the time when we say we “love” someone who has hurt us, there’s a quiet hope tucked underneath it—that maybe they’ll soften,…
Read moreIt’s strange how deeply we believe that life can be held together if only we try hard enough. We chase stability—saving money, nurturing relationships, building routines—as if somewhere there’s a version of life that will finally stop moving. But it never does. Things keep shifting. People change. Bodies age. Plans unravel. The world doesn’t sit…
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