seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
It’s strange to think that who we believe ourselves to be might not really be ours. From the moment we’re born, we’re named, categorized, and surrounded by people who reflect back to us who they think we are. Slowly, almost invisibly, we start to believe them. Our sense of “I” is shaped by words, tones,…
Read moreForgiveness isn’t a one-time decision. It’s a slow, aching process—like pulling out a thorn that’s been buried under the skin for too long. Especially after divorce or separation, forgiveness can feel like the hardest part. Not just forgiving them, but forgiving yourself. I used to think forgiveness meant saying, “It’s okay.” But what happened wasn’t…
Read moreYou don’t owe anyone your energy, your time, or your story just because they ask for it.You are allowed to say no—to invitations, to conversations, to family expectations, to anything that doesn’t feel safe, right, or healthy for you. And here’s the powerful part:You can say no without giving a long reason. Without softening it….
Read moreWe often move through life seeing things as separate—people, choices, events, even parts of ourselves. We label and divide, believing that one thing causes another, that everything must be connected by a thread we can trace. But maybe the problem began when we started cutting life into pieces in the first place. The world itself…
Read moreI treat my money like I treat the earth—valuable, limited, and worthy of real respect. Not just because it pays the bills, but because how I handle it says a lot about how I live. I don’t see money as endless or disposable. I see it like soil—something to tend, protect, and use wisely so…
Read moreAt our last choir concert, the September one, I learned something strange about noticing. I’d never sung in a choir before, so I went all out—found a tailor, asked for something simple, respectful, choir-like. The result? A long, boxy, shapeless dress that made me look like I’d stepped straight out of an old hymn book….
Read moreThere’s something grounding about remembering that money, like everything else in life, moves in cycles. Sometimes there’s abundance—things flow, doors open, bills get paid with ease. And other times, there’s scarcity—tight months, hard choices, and a sense of holding your breath. But both seasons are part of the rhythm. Just like nature has dry spells…
Read moreToday I was reminded again how easy it is for obedience to disguise itself as faith. I got one of those familiar messages—the kind that tells you to fast for three days, pray for others, attend midweek meetings, show up early on Saturday and Sunday, and serve with all your heart. No one questions anything….
Read moreConflict doesn’t always explode. Sometimes, it simmers—quiet and constant—beneath the surface. In the aftermath of separation or divorce, conflict often lingers longer than the relationship itself. Words unsaid. Feelings unprocessed. Decisions that feel unfair or unfinished. Conflict can show up in co-parenting conversations that turn cold. In texts that carry more tone than words. In…
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