seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
Careers don’t always follow a straight, planned path—just like rivers don’t flow in perfect lines. Sometimes, the way forward changes because of obstacles, new opportunities, or simply because life shifts around us. And that’s okay. Like a river, I can learn to be flexible and adaptable. If one route gets blocked, I don’t have to…
Read moreNo one tells you how parenting will stretch you — not just in your time, your patience, your energy — but in your identity. In the quiet moments, I’ve realized I’m not just raising a child. I’m also raising myself, again. Not to be perfect, but to be more present, more aware, more honest. When…
Read moreI had an interesting conversation with my cousin yesterday. We were talking about why good girls actually finish last — and we both came to the same surprising conclusion. It’s religion. For 34 years, I was the definition of a good Christian girl. I followed every rule, avoided anything remotely “worldly,” and did everything the…
Read moreI’ve never understood why people say “God did it” as if that ends the conversation. It’s not an explanation — it’s what people say when they’ve run out of explanations. Like a shrug, dressed up in faith. If you ask, “Why did this happen?” and someone says, “Because God wanted it that way,” what they’re…
Read moreThere’s a theory that describes religion as behaving like a parasite—not in the moral sense, but in the biological one. It survives by embedding itself in human minds and cultures, feeding off our fears, hopes, and need for belonging. It doesn’t depend on truth for survival; it depends on transmission. Most of us don’t choose…
Read moreGrowth doesn’t come with guarantees. There’s no map that shows how long it will take or what the final shape will be. Sometimes it looks like nothing is changing on the surface, and other times it feels like everything is happening all at once, too fast to make sense of. But I’ve come to realise…
Read moreThe other day, I saw a woman ask for help in a group I’m part of. She was leaving a toxic marriage, starting over with nothing, and simply asked if anyone had an old mattress or stove to spare. Her message was raw and humble — the kind of thing you write when you’ve reached…
Read moreSome questions in life sit in a strange space—where no amount of evidence, research, or philosophical discussion can really touch them. This is where what’s known as Permanent Agnosticism by Principle comes in. It’s a stance we take on questions that aren’t just unanswered, but likely unanswerable—because they live outside the realm where evidence can…
Read moreSometimes you wake up and wonder, “Why am I here?” Not in some grand spiritual sense, but just… here. Living. Existing. Doing the same things. Wondering if any of it matters. And if you’re like me—someone who doesn’t believe there’s a cosmic plan or divine purpose—it can feel especially heavy. When you strip away the…
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