Living within my means isn’t about deprivation or restriction—it’s about living in tune with what’s real. With what I have. With what’s sustainable. Just like nature doesn’t overreach—trees don’t try to grow taller than their roots can hold, rivers don’t overflow unless pushed—there’s a wisdom in working with limits instead of against them. There’s peace…
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The Day I Got Conned Online
Yesterday I got properly conned. I still can’t believe it, but here we are. I’ve been avoiding my fundi after we fell out, and since then I’ve been buying clothes online. Honestly, it’s been great so far. Smooth deliveries, good quality, no drama. So when I remembered that my daughter and I don’t have decent…
Read moreThe Trap of Trying to Be Good
There’s a strange thing that happens when we try too hard to be good—it almost always backfires. The more we try to act without greed or fear, the more we notice that our motives are still tangled up in both. We tell ourselves we’re being selfless, but deep down, there’s often a quiet voice hoping…
Read moreThe Hoax of the Future
We spend most of our lives chasing a moment that never arrives. From the time we’re old enough to understand language, we’re told to prepare—for school, for exams, for university, for work, for marriage, for retirement. Every step is a prelude to the next. We grow up waiting for life to begin, not realizing it’s…
Read moreThe Mirror That Shapes Us
It’s strange to think that who we believe ourselves to be might not really be ours. From the moment we’re born, we’re named, categorized, and surrounded by people who reflect back to us who they think we are. Slowly, almost invisibly, we start to believe them. Our sense of “I” is shaped by words, tones,…
Read moreOn Forgiveness: Letting Go Without Forgetting
Forgiveness isn’t a one-time decision. It’s a slow, aching process—like pulling out a thorn that’s been buried under the skin for too long. Especially after divorce or separation, forgiveness can feel like the hardest part. Not just forgiving them, but forgiving yourself. I used to think forgiveness meant saying, “It’s okay.” But what happened wasn’t…
Read moreI Can Say No Without Explaining Myself
You don’t owe anyone your energy, your time, or your story just because they ask for it.You are allowed to say no—to invitations, to conversations, to family expectations, to anything that doesn’t feel safe, right, or healthy for you. And here’s the powerful part:You can say no without giving a long reason. Without softening it….
Read moreWhen Awareness Widens
We often move through life seeing things as separate—people, choices, events, even parts of ourselves. We label and divide, believing that one thing causes another, that everything must be connected by a thread we can trace. But maybe the problem began when we started cutting life into pieces in the first place. The world itself…
Read moreMoney with Roots
I treat my money like I treat the earth—valuable, limited, and worthy of real respect. Not just because it pays the bills, but because how I handle it says a lot about how I live. I don’t see money as endless or disposable. I see it like soil—something to tend, protect, and use wisely so…
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