There’s a quiet kind of pain that doesn’t always get talked about—the pain of what never happened. The love you didn’t receive. The comfort you needed but never got. The childhood safety that should’ve been there but wasn’t. The support, the validation, the protection, the affection—you might have needed those things so badly, and they…
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We Don’t Do Blind Obedience—We Do Mutual Respect
I’m not raising soldiers. I’m raising human beings. Thinking, feeling, learning humans who deserve to be heard—not just controlled. Blind obedience might get fast results, but it often comes at the cost of trust. When a child obeys out of fear or habit, they’re not learning how to think for themselves. They’re learning how to…
Read moreLet It All Belong
We tend to think we have to feel completely confident before we take a step forward. That we need to erase fear, silence self-doubt, and have it all together before we show up. But that’s not how real life works. The truth is, we’re often nervous and ready. Scared and open. Unsure and still willing….
Read moreI Can Start Over at Any Moment
Sometimes it feels like too much damage has been done. Like you’ve messed up too badly, trusted the wrong people, stayed too long, or lost too much time. Maybe shame creeps in and says, “It’s too late for me. I should be further by now.” But healing reminds you of something powerful: you can begin…
Read moreTeaching by Living
“I teach what I live: honesty, consent, boundaries, and curiosity.” Parenting isn’t just about what we say—it’s about how we live. Our children learn most from watching us move through the world. They see how we treat others, how we respond to stress, how we hold space for discomfort, and how we honour ourselves. So…
Read moreThe Quiet Bravery of Trusting Again
Trusting again after being hurt feels like standing at the edge of a cliff and daring to lean forward. It’s not easy. Your body remembers the fall, your heart remembers the sting, and your mind builds walls to protect you. And yet—somehow—you still reach out. You still let someone in, even just a little. That’s…
Read moreMy Body Is Not the Enemy—It’s My Home
It’s hard to feel at home in your body when it’s carried pain. Sometimes, when you’ve been hurt, abandoned, judged, or violated, your body starts to feel like a battlefield. You might look at yourself and only see damage. You might feel angry at your body for being “too much,” “too loud,” “not enough,” or…
Read moreSafe to Be Real
“I want my child to feel safe to be real—not pressured to be good.” There’s a big difference between raising a child who performs goodness and raising one who feels safe enough to be honest—even when they’re struggling, angry, messy, or unsure. When we focus too hard on raising “good” kids, we sometimes forget what…
Read moreDecember, Grief, Small Joys, and Finding My Way Back
I’ve been very quiet. Almost the whole of December, actually. And that’s not accidental. December is a hard month for me. It holds the anniversary of my mother’s death, on the 29th, and as that date approaches my body knows before my mind does. I become anxious, heavy, withdrawn. Christmas brings no joy for me….
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