seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
It’s strange how deeply we believe that life can be held together if only we try hard enough. We chase stability—saving money, nurturing relationships, building routines—as if somewhere there’s a version of life that will finally stop moving. But it never does. Things keep shifting. People change. Bodies age. Plans unravel. The world doesn’t sit…
Read moreYou don’t stop being worthy when you’re tired.You don’t stop being smart when your mind feels foggy.You don’t stop being lovable when you’re in pain.Struggling doesn’t erase who you are—it reveals what you’re carrying, not who you are underneath it all. When you’re going through hard things, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself….
Read moreThere was a time when my world revolved around them. The rhythms of my day, the choices I made, the weight I carried—it was all wrapped around the shape of that relationship. And when it ended, it didn’t just break something between us. It broke something inside me too. Talking about a former spouse isn’t…
Read moreSaving isn’t about hoarding or living in fear. It’s a quiet, thoughtful act of love—a bridge between who I am today and who I’m becoming. When I set money aside, even just a little, I’m not depriving myself. I’m saying to my future self, I see you. I care about you. I want you to…
Read moreThere’s something I’ve come to understand about healing that I didn’t learn in any therapy room or healing program. Sometimes the body heals not through talking, but through doing. Through rhythm. Through connection. Through environments where you don’t have to explain anything because your nervous system is already exhaling on its own. That’s exactly what…
Read moreLiving within my means isn’t about deprivation or restriction—it’s about living in tune with what’s real. With what I have. With what’s sustainable. Just like nature doesn’t overreach—trees don’t try to grow taller than their roots can hold, rivers don’t overflow unless pushed—there’s a wisdom in working with limits instead of against them. There’s peace…
Read moreYesterday I got properly conned. I still can’t believe it, but here we are. I’ve been avoiding my fundi after we fell out, and since then I’ve been buying clothes online. Honestly, it’s been great so far. Smooth deliveries, good quality, no drama. So when I remembered that my daughter and I don’t have decent…
Read moreThere’s a strange thing that happens when we try too hard to be good—it almost always backfires. The more we try to act without greed or fear, the more we notice that our motives are still tangled up in both. We tell ourselves we’re being selfless, but deep down, there’s often a quiet voice hoping…
Read moreWe spend most of our lives chasing a moment that never arrives. From the time we’re old enough to understand language, we’re told to prepare—for school, for exams, for university, for work, for marriage, for retirement. Every step is a prelude to the next. We grow up waiting for life to begin, not realizing it’s…
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