Money isn’t a fixed thing. It moves—like the tide. Sometimes it rushes in with abundance, and other times it slips away when we need it most. I used to panic during the low tides, feeling like I’d failed somehow. But now, I try to approach it differently. I remind myself that this ebb and flow…
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The Church and the Price of Vulnerability
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much money I gave to the church over the years. How much I tithed, sowed, sacrificed, and “trusted God with my finances.” And I’ve come to a point where I know, deep down, that I’ll never give my money to the church again. Not because I’ve hardened…
Read moreLife’s Rhythm: The Ebb and Flow
Life doesn’t move in a straight line. Sometimes we feel like we’re making progress, riding high with everything falling into place. Other times, it feels like we’re pulling back, stepping away, or even losing ground. But just like the tides of the ocean, these moments of retreat aren’t signs of failure—they’re part of a natural…
Read moreWhen the Church Breaks You, Then Sells You Salvation
There’s a part of the brainwashing process that I read about that hit close to home. It said that once someone’s sense of self has been completely broken down — when they no longer trust their own mind or instincts — that’s when they’re most open to control. At that stage, the manipulator offers a…
Read moreMoney & Me: Untangling the Shame of Financial Struggle
Money has never just been about numbers for me. It’s been about worth. Safety. Control. And sometimes—shame. There were seasons where I couldn’t make ends meet, where every text or call from the bank made my chest tighten. Times I avoided opening bills, not because I didn’t care, but because I felt completely overwhelmed. I’ve…
Read moreYou Don’t Have to Prove Your Worth
You don’t have to earn love by being useful. You don’t have to perform kindness, shrink your needs, or constantly explain yourself to deserve care. This one hits deep, especially if you grew up feeling like love had conditions. Maybe you had to be the helper, the good girl, the peacemaker. Maybe you were praised…
Read moreHow Church Brainwashing Works — And How I Finally Broke Free
I didn’t realize I was being brainwashed. At the time, I thought I was just being faithful. Obedient. Deep in devotion. That’s how it often starts — you’re chasing peace and meaning, and before you know it, someone else is running your mind for you. I recently came across a description of brainwashing in psychology….
Read moreThe Wisdom of Holding and Releasing
There’s a quiet kind of wisdom in learning what to cling to and what to release. And that, to me, is what true wealth looks like—not just a number in a bank account, but the inner stability to know what truly matters. Sometimes we’re taught that being wealthy means accumulating, hoarding, never letting go. But…
Read moreThe Final Stage — When Belonging Becomes the Trap
There’s yet another stage in brainwashing that sounds almost beautiful on the surface — the moment of “rebirth.” It’s described as the point where you let go of your old identity and fully embrace the new one. You’re surrounded by people who welcome you with open arms. They make you feel seen, loved, and finally…
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