seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
Today at the salon, I met someone from my former church. It caught me completely off guard. I saw her talking to one of the ladies there, and before she even looked my way, I tried to bury myself in my phone—pretending to scroll, pretending to be too busy to notice. But of course, life…
Read moreDivorce is not just an emotional or relational ending—it’s also a legal process, often cold, complex, and overwhelming. When love begins to unravel, the law steps in—not to heal hearts, but to divide lives. Legal issues around divorce can feel heavy and disorienting. Suddenly, deeply personal matters—like custody, property, and finances—become legal terms, documents, and…
Read moreIt’s not all or nothing. You don’t have to be either fully okay or completely broken. Healing isn’t about “getting over it” or forcing joy. It’s about learning to live with both: the ache and the ease. The grief and the grace. Some days, your heart might still sting from things that happened years ago….
Read moreThis morning I woke up and decided I was going back to carnivore. Again. I’ve been on every diet you can think of—vegetarian, keto, intermittent fasting—but I still keep circling back, hoping one of them will finally make me feel okay in my body. So I told myself today was the day. No sugar, no…
Read moreMoney isn’t a fixed thing. It moves—like the tide. Sometimes it rushes in with abundance, and other times it slips away when we need it most. I used to panic during the low tides, feeling like I’d failed somehow. But now, I try to approach it differently. I remind myself that this ebb and flow…
Read moreLately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much money I gave to the church over the years. How much I tithed, sowed, sacrificed, and “trusted God with my finances.” And I’ve come to a point where I know, deep down, that I’ll never give my money to the church again. Not because I’ve hardened…
Read moreLife doesn’t move in a straight line. Sometimes we feel like we’re making progress, riding high with everything falling into place. Other times, it feels like we’re pulling back, stepping away, or even losing ground. But just like the tides of the ocean, these moments of retreat aren’t signs of failure—they’re part of a natural…
Read moreThere’s a part of the brainwashing process that I read about that hit close to home. It said that once someone’s sense of self has been completely broken down — when they no longer trust their own mind or instincts — that’s when they’re most open to control. At that stage, the manipulator offers a…
Read moreMoney has never just been about numbers for me. It’s been about worth. Safety. Control. And sometimes—shame. There were seasons where I couldn’t make ends meet, where every text or call from the bank made my chest tighten. Times I avoided opening bills, not because I didn’t care, but because I felt completely overwhelmed. I’ve…
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