Category: At Home in My Body

When we don’t feel certain of our self-worth, we naturally start reaching for it outside ourselves. We conform subtly or obviously because being part of a group can feel like safety. We want approval. We want to be seen. And sometimes, we’ll shape-shift just to fit in. This isn’t weakness. It’s human. Belonging matters. But…

“What is most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine.”—Susan Sontag I’ve thought a lot about this. About how we’ve been trained to split ourselves in half — to believe strength and softness can’t live in the same body. We’re told that men must be…

I’ve watched it happen in so many lives — quietly, subtly, and almost always too early. A girl is born whole. She doesn’t yet know that her worth might be questioned. She doesn’t know her voice might be too loud, her body too big, her opinions too bold. She laughs without checking who’s watching. She…

There are some women who find themselves deeply attracted to a certain type of man — the “lovable rebel.” He’s the one who doesn’t follow the rules, who challenges authority, who seems exciting and unpredictable. He may be younger, dress differently, or come from outside her usual social circle. He stands out, and that’s part…

When you look at a tree that’s stood through years of storms, you might notice how it leans. Maybe its trunk curves slightly, or its branches reach in unusual directions. That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom written in wood. The strength of a tree isn’t in how rigid it stands, but in its ability to bend…

Failure hurts. It can shake your confidence, cloud your vision, and make you want to shrink away from trying again. But the truth is—failure isn’t the end. It’s part of the process, just like compost in a garden. When something breaks down in nature, it doesn’t disappear in shame. It transforms. Leaves fall, food scraps…

There’s a kind of silence that fills the room when everyone has left. Not the peaceful kind. The kind that hums in your bones. The kind that follows you around the house, between rooms, into bed. That’s the loneliness I’ve come to know—not just being alone, but feeling unseen. Unwitnessed. After divorce, that feeling deepened…

Everything alive changes. Trees drop their leaves, rivers shift course, animals grow new coats, and the sky never looks exactly the same two days in a row. Change isn’t the exception in nature—it’s the rule. And I’m part of that same living world. That means I’m not failing when life changes. I’m not broken when…

Growth doesn’t start with a grand reveal—it starts quietly, under the surface. A seed sits in the dark for a while before it breaks through the soil. It doesn’t rush, doesn’t question its worth, doesn’t panic because nothing’s blooming yet. It just waits, trusting the process written into its very being. That’s how I’m learning…