seeing what is silent, hearing what is unseen
Reflections on work, money, and the rhythm of daily life — without chasing perfection or endless hustle. This space is about holding balance, finding simplicity, and learning to meet your needs while keeping joy alive.
There’s something gentle and grounding about remembering that nothing stays the same—not even our money needs. Just like the seasons, life moves in cycles. Some seasons ask me to stretch and grow, to invest, to build. Others ask me to slow down, rest, recover. Neither is wrong. Both are natural. My financial needs change as…
Read moreYelling doesn’t teach—it triggers. When someone is already overwhelmed, out of control, or struggling, a harsh voice doesn’t guide them; it amplifies fear, anger, or shutdown. Our nervous systems are wired to respond to signals of safety or danger, just like a dog that cowers when shouted at but wags its tail when spoken to…
Read moreMoney, like soil, isn’t good or bad on its own—it just responds to how we treat it. If I use it thoughtfully, with care and purpose, it has the power to nourish my life. It can support my wellbeing, create safety, open up space for joy, rest, and growth. Just like healthy land, when tended…
Read moreYou don’t stop being worthy when you’re tired.You don’t stop being smart when your mind feels foggy.You don’t stop being lovable when you’re in pain.Struggling doesn’t erase who you are—it reveals what you’re carrying, not who you are underneath it all. When you’re going through hard things, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself….
Read moreSaving isn’t about hoarding or living in fear. It’s a quiet, thoughtful act of love—a bridge between who I am today and who I’m becoming. When I set money aside, even just a little, I’m not depriving myself. I’m saying to my future self, I see you. I care about you. I want you to…
Read moreLiving within my means isn’t about deprivation or restriction—it’s about living in tune with what’s real. With what I have. With what’s sustainable. Just like nature doesn’t overreach—trees don’t try to grow taller than their roots can hold, rivers don’t overflow unless pushed—there’s a wisdom in working with limits instead of against them. There’s peace…
Read moreYesterday I got properly conned. I still can’t believe it, but here we are. I’ve been avoiding my fundi after we fell out, and since then I’ve been buying clothes online. Honestly, it’s been great so far. Smooth deliveries, good quality, no drama. So when I remembered that my daughter and I don’t have decent…
Read moreForgiveness isn’t a one-time decision. It’s a slow, aching process—like pulling out a thorn that’s been buried under the skin for too long. Especially after divorce or separation, forgiveness can feel like the hardest part. Not just forgiving them, but forgiving yourself. I used to think forgiveness meant saying, “It’s okay.” But what happened wasn’t…
Read moreYou don’t owe anyone your energy, your time, or your story just because they ask for it.You are allowed to say no—to invitations, to conversations, to family expectations, to anything that doesn’t feel safe, right, or healthy for you. And here’s the powerful part:You can say no without giving a long reason. Without softening it….
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