Shame can feel like a heavy, dark cloud that settles deep inside, whispering that something about you is wrong or broken. It’s that voice telling you you’re unworthy, unlovable, or that you don’t belong. But shame is not the truth. It’s a reaction—a signal from your mind and body responding to past pain. When you’ve…
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Thoughts on parenting that come from presence, not perfection. Here, the focus is on guiding, listening, and learning alongside your children — with honesty, tenderness, and room for mistakes.
My Child’s Emotions Are Signals, Not Inconveniences
When my child cries, yells, or melts down, it’s not because they’re trying to make life harder. It’s because something inside them needs attention. Their emotions aren’t a problem to fix—they’re a message to hear. I used to think I had to quiet every outburst quickly. That a calm child meant I was doing something…
Read moreA New Chapter, Not the End
Pain has a way of convincing us that everything stops with it. When something breaks—our heart, our plans, our sense of who we thought we were—it can feel like the book is closed, the story over, the light gone. But that’s not how stories work. Especially not yours. Your story didn’t end with pain. It…
Read moreI’m Allowed to Grieve What I Didn’t Get
There’s a quiet kind of pain that doesn’t always get talked about—the pain of what never happened. The love you didn’t receive. The comfort you needed but never got. The childhood safety that should’ve been there but wasn’t. The support, the validation, the protection, the affection—you might have needed those things so badly, and they…
Read moreWe Don’t Do Blind Obedience—We Do Mutual Respect
I’m not raising soldiers. I’m raising human beings. Thinking, feeling, learning humans who deserve to be heard—not just controlled. Blind obedience might get fast results, but it often comes at the cost of trust. When a child obeys out of fear or habit, they’re not learning how to think for themselves. They’re learning how to…
Read moreLet It All Belong
We tend to think we have to feel completely confident before we take a step forward. That we need to erase fear, silence self-doubt, and have it all together before we show up. But that’s not how real life works. The truth is, we’re often nervous and ready. Scared and open. Unsure and still willing….
Read moreI Can Start Over at Any Moment
Sometimes it feels like too much damage has been done. Like you’ve messed up too badly, trusted the wrong people, stayed too long, or lost too much time. Maybe shame creeps in and says, “It’s too late for me. I should be further by now.” But healing reminds you of something powerful: you can begin…
Read moreTeaching by Living
“I teach what I live: honesty, consent, boundaries, and curiosity.” Parenting isn’t just about what we say—it’s about how we live. Our children learn most from watching us move through the world. They see how we treat others, how we respond to stress, how we hold space for discomfort, and how we honour ourselves. So…
Read moreThe Quiet Bravery of Trusting Again
Trusting again after being hurt feels like standing at the edge of a cliff and daring to lean forward. It’s not easy. Your body remembers the fall, your heart remembers the sting, and your mind builds walls to protect you. And yet—somehow—you still reach out. You still let someone in, even just a little. That’s…
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