I Didn’t Cause My Trauma—But I Can Choose What Happens Next

What happened to you wasn’t your fault. Not the neglect, not the betrayal, not the abandonment, not the pain you were too young or too unsupported to handle. You didn’t choose the people who hurt you. You didn’t choose to grow up feeling unsafe, unloved, or unseen.

And yet—here you are, still standing. Still breathing. Still searching for ways to heal.

This is the truth you get to hold now: you didn’t cause the harm, but you get to decide how your story continues. You get to choose whether that pain defines you or fuels your growth. You get to learn how to care for yourself in the ways no one taught you. You get to say: “That chapter hurt like hell—but it’s not the last one.”

It’s okay if healing feels slow. It’s okay if you’re angry, tired, or overwhelmed. But don’t ever forget: your power isn’t in pretending the trauma never happened. It’s in refusing to let it take everything from you. You still have choices. You still have a future. You still get to write something new with what was given to you.

You are not your trauma. You are what survived it. And now you are what rises.

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