Wanting intimacy doesn’t make you desperate. It doesn’t mean you’re needy or weak or haven’t “healed enough.” It means you’re human. Full stop.
We don’t ask permission to breathe, to eat when we’re hungry, or to rest when we’re tired. So why do we feel like we need permission to crave closeness, touch, and connection? Somewhere along the way—maybe after heartbreak, abandonment, or disappointment—we start believing that we have to earn love again. That we have to prove ourselves before we can long for someone to hold our hand, to know us deeply, to see us in our softness.
But that longing? That ache for intimacy? It’s not a flaw. It’s a basic human need, just like warmth and shelter.
You are allowed to want someone to share your life with again. You are allowed to want someone who listens when you speak, who leans in, who chooses you not despite your past but with full awareness of it. You don’t need to explain that longing to anyone. You don’t need to justify it with timelines or milestones or “proof of readiness.”
You are already enough. You are already worthy of love—not someday, not when you’re “healed,” but now. Wanting intimacy doesn’t make you less strong or independent. It means your heart still believes in connection—and that, in itself, is incredibly brave.